The questions to answer before you match

The questions people skip: money, religion, illness, death, and what happens when someone moves.

What donor-conceived adults say

The people best placed to say what matters here, and the ones least often asked.

Telling your child how they came to be

When to start, how it changes with age, and why leaving it turns out to be the hard option.

Timing, age, and being realistic

What the numbers actually say about age and timing, without the scaremongering.

What donors are screened for

What donors are screened for, and the gap between a clinic and a private arrangement.

Going through a clinic

IUI, IVF, and what a clinic will require before it begins.

Home insemination: what it involves

What it involves practically, what it requires medically, and the risks that get glossed over.

Red flags in a first message

What the first few messages tell you, and the single request that should end a conversation.

How much to share, and when

Surnames, workplaces, photos — how much to share, and the order to share it in.

Meeting for the first time

Where to meet, who should know, and what not to bring.